By: Tasnin Khan
Disclaimer: This piece is not meant to cover “the latest gossip” but to point a finger to a greater issue at hand-- the contradiction between our encouragement of Mental Health discussions and wellness vs. the ways that we treat each other and celebrities through social media.
We live in a world fueled more than ever by drama and noise. It’s become too common to unleash a fury of opinions (unwarranted or not) because social media gives everyone a platform and access to “the tea.” People love to poke fun at the expense of others, talk smack for days about people they claim to dislike, and get into full blown Twitter wars and cyber conflicts with people they don’t even know while hiding behind an Avatar. The truth is, Cancel Culture, and saying what you think before you can even process it yourself, has really opened up the way to a new norm of bullying to varying degrees, and it is really not okay.
As you may have seen or heard, Ayesha Curry went on Jada Pinkett Smith’s Red Table Talk alongside the other queens of the Curry family - her mother-in-law and two sister-in-laws, Sydel and Callie. As with many other Red Table Talks, the women were very vulnerable and spoke their truths. They spoke about the challenges of marriage, dealing with anxiety, and being with a partner who is in the spotlight, and on whom many prey. Ayesha Curry opened up and shared how it can be difficult to be with someone when there are people around her husband, Steph Curry, who have no boundaries nor the best of intentions. Her personal space has been violated on occasion - like when a woman intruded into her car for an autograph as she breastfed her child; and her marriage has been disregarded and disrespected by women who throw themselves at her husband, hoping to sabotage what they have.
Famous or not, this would have its impact on many of people. Yet, for some reason when Ayesha Curry shared that it can be hard to be with a partner where this is a normal occurrence and feel as though she doesn’t get as much male attention in the last 10 years, it was a problem. She is a woman, a mother of three, a partner to someone who is always in the spotlight in a very public way - she had the courage to speak her truth and be vulnerable. But of course, the internet was quick to poke fun of and bully her with comments, dragging her for “wanting male groupies,” calling her insecure, saying that she should just be happy and “enjoy Steph’s paycheck,” commenting about her attractiveness, and even comparing her to others like Megan the Stallion while implying that nobody is checking for her because she doesn’t dress a certain way.
This is not okay. Just because they are a celebrity, far removed from you, or because you don’t agree with somebody’s perspective does not give you the right to bully somebody or spam them with negativity. We live in a time where Mental Health is more of an open topic, but let’s be more aware in transforming the discourse into proactive action. It really blows my mind that some people preach about wellness, being kind, mental health while thinking it’s okay to talk crazy and disrespect another person just because you can’t see their point of view or because you don’t agree with them.
I am sure that it took a lot for Ayesha Curry to speak her mind and be honest about something she struggles with at times on a public platform, on a segment viewed by many. If we want to talk about mental health and caring for ourselves, let’s ensure that we are making our world a safe space to be vulnerable and to confide in one another. And if you don’t like something that someone is saying about their own life and their own struggle, please just keep on scrolling next time and leave the status post, hating comment, and unwarranted opinion out of it. If we see people around us partaking in this kind of behavior, please let’s say something in a proactive way and make the way for more healthy social media usage.